Neil Jacobson Bücher

National awareness of battering has grown, yet persistent myths about abusive relationships remain, including the misconception that all batterers are the same. After a decade of research involving over 200 couples, the authors reveal that batterers fall into two distinct categories: "Pit Bulls" and "Cobras." Pit Bulls are emotionally volatile, driven by deep insecurity and unhealthy dependence on their partners. In contrast, Cobras are calculated and methodical in their abuse, often stemming from their own experiences of physical or sexual abuse in childhood, viewing violence as an inevitable aspect of life. Identifying the type of batterer is crucial for assessing the potential for salvaging an abusive relationship, as Pit Bulls may respond to therapy, while situations involving Cobras are often beyond repair. Through the narratives of several couples, the authors examine the dynamics of abusive relationships and challenge common myths. They emphasize the inherent risks involved and provide insights on how women in their study prepared to leave abusive situations, where to seek help, and strategies for ensuring their safety.