Envy

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Envy is a critical element of human experience, identified as a key factor in negative therapeutic reactions and challenges in engaging difficult individuals. This work explores what the "haves" possess that the "have-nots" envy—be it physical attributes, wealth, or power. Harold Boris concludes that the root of envy is more fundamental: it is life itself. Building on ideas from his previous works, he argues that living, growing, marrying, and reproducing can feel disconnected from the belief in one's right to do so. Some individuals feel authentic and destined for success, while others experience their achievements as impostures, leading to feelings of hollowness and dread. This disparity creates envy, as those who seem to possess a rightful claim to life’s benefits become objects of resentment for those who do not. While therapy can aid envious individuals, it risks exacerbating self-envy, potentially halting progress or leading to disastrous outcomes. Boris suggests that restructuring the therapeutic relationship can help mitigate the panic associated with self-envy, allowing for a more effective therapeutic process.