Bill Eddy Bücher

In this tenth anniversary edition of Don't Alienate the Kids! attorney, mediator, and therapist Bill Eddy shows readers how to protect children from the harm of alienation and high-conflict divorce, boosting their resilience by teaching them to think flexibly, manage their emotions, and moderate their behaviors. We all know breakups can get ugly. But sometimes they can get downright vicious, with badmouthing, brainwashing, and allegations of alienation, child abuse and domestic violence, all leading to nasty custody battles. And when they do, it's the children who suffer most. During a high-conflict divorce or separation, kids can develop lifelong habits of all-or-nothing thinking, unregulated emotions, and extreme behaviors. But there's hope! Readers can help kids learn flexible thinking, emotion regulation, effective behaviors, and healthy relationships. Everyone involved must work together. This book shows how parents, family members, friends, counselors, lawyers, parenting coordinators, divorce coaches, and family court judges can become part of the solution, giving children a foundation of resilience that will last a lifetime

"Written by a family law attorney and therapist and an expert in borderline personality disorder (BPD), Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from BPD or narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). This highly anticipated second edition is fully revised, and includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes"-- Provided by publisher

Have you ever received an email that made your heart race? While we know it's best not to respond immediately, how we reply can either escalate or reduce conflict. Hostile emails, texts, and conversations can drain time and emotional energy in the workplace. For over a dozen years, the BIFF method has aided thousands in calming conflicts and fostering clear communication in response to misinformation and anger. BIFF (Brief, Informative, Friendly, Firm) offers a straightforward approach to handling difficult emails, helping to diffuse tension, contain conflict, and establish professional boundaries. This second installment in the BIFF Conflict Communication Series zeroes in on workplace conflicts, providing a four-step BIFF method with examples of effective and ineffective responses to highlight potential pitfalls. It also offers tips for coaching colleagues on crafting effective BIFF replies to customers, clients, and managers, preventing unhealthy back-and-forth exchanges. Utilizing BIFF with difficult teammates and challenging clients can mitigate risks of lawsuits and complaints, enhancing confidence in workplace relationships. Embrace BIFF to lower stress, reduce conflict, and restore your confidence.

Some difficult people aren’t just hard to deal with—they’re dangerous. Do you know someone whose moods swing wildly? Do they act unreasonably suspicious or antagonistic? Do they blame others for their own problems? When a high-conflict person has one of five common personality disorders—borderline, narcissistic, paranoid, antisocial, or histrionic—they can lash out in risky extremes of emotion and aggression. And once an HCP decides to target you, they’re hard to shake. But there are ways to protect yourself. Using empathy-driven conflict management techniques, Bill Eddy, a lawyer and therapist with extensive mediation experience, will teach you to: - Spot warning signs of the five high-conflict personalities in others and in yourself. - Manage relationships with HCPs at work and in your private life. - Safely avoid or end dangerous and stressful interactions with HCPs. Filled with expert advice and real-life anecdotes, 5 Types of People Who Can Ruin Your Life is an essential guide to helping you escape negative relationships, build healthy connections, and safeguard your reputation and personal life in the process. And if you have a high-conflict personality, this book will help you help yourself.

Democracy is under siege. The reason isn't politics but personalities: too many countries have come under the sway of high-conflict people (HCPs) who have become politicians. Most of these high-conflict politicians have traits of narcissistic personality disorder, antisocial (i.e., sociopathic) personality disorder, or both. This is the first and only guide for identifying and thwarting them

Exploring the pervasive issue of bullying across various societal levels, this book identifies consistent behavioral patterns exhibited by bullies. It delves into the dynamics of adult bullying, offering insights into its causes and effects, while providing a framework for understanding and addressing this troubling phenomenon in contemporary society.

"High conflict mediation requires a paradigm shift from traditional mediation--high conflict experts Bill Eddy and Michael Lomax show you how. Over the past ten years the authors have been developing and practicing tips for managing high conflict clients in mediation, which is now a fully developed new method called New Ways for Mediation®. Mediating High Conflict Disputes gives all of the little tips which any mediator can use, as well as the step-by-step structure of the New Ways for Mediation method for those who want to have better control of the process in high conflict cases--or any cases."--Publisher

The current level of stress and conflict in the world is unprecedented, and many people struggle with managing the emotions that arise from it. There is an increase in "high conflict" individuals who focus on blaming others and expressing their frustrations verbally. However, these intense emotions can often be diffused quickly using a simple EAR Statement™, a technique developed by Bill Eddy over the past fifteen years and taught to countless professionals and individuals. Building on the success of his BIFF Response® method for written communication, this new resource focuses on EAR Statements for verbal interactions, proving useful in various challenging situations such as family disputes, workplace conflicts, and neighborhood issues. A straightforward statement that conveys empathy, attention, and respect can significantly calm an upset person in just minutes. Though it may seem simple, mastering this approach requires practice. The book provides over twenty examples of applying EAR Statements across diverse contexts, including families, communities, customer relations, workplaces, political discussions, and more. Ultimately, empathy, attention, and respect are essential for everyone, especially during conflicts, and this guide offers practical strategies for achieving calm in everyday interactions.

Na zaburzenia psychiczne opisane w tej książce cierpi co dziesiąta osoba, co może dotyczyć twojego szefa, kolegi z pracy lub członka rodziny. Osoby te, zwłaszcza te z tendencją do wysoko konfliktowych zachowań, mogą być niebezpieczne. Jeśli znasz kogoś z ekstremalnymi wahaniami nastrojów, skłonnością do spisków lub obwiniania innych, warto być ostrożnym. Wysoko konfliktowe osobowości, takie jak borderline, narcystyczne, paranoidalne, antyspołeczne czy histrioniczne, mogą przejawiać silne emocje, gniew i agresję. Gdy znajdziesz się na ich celowniku, zerwanie relacji może być trudne. Istnieją jednak metody ochrony. Bill Eddy, prawnik i terapeuta, dzieli się skutecznymi technikami rozwiązywania konfliktów opartych na empatii. Uczy, jak rozpoznawać oznaki pięciu wysoko konfliktowych osobowości, radzić sobie z nimi w pracy i życiu prywatnym oraz unikać niebezpiecznych interakcji. Eddy, autor poradników psychologicznych i bloga „Psychology Today”, wykorzystuje swoje doświadczenie z sali sądowej, aby w przystępny sposób tłumaczyć złożone mechanizmy psychologiczne i pomagać w identyfikacji toksycznych ludzi.